Good People Sometimes Cry Secretly

Good people carry many disappointments in their hearts  and, although they appear to be strong and have a kind smile, they sometimes wear double armor. This is the way they hide to cry, to vent their sorrows and bitterness in solitude.

Good people have not always been happy people, but they have that vital strength that teaches them to be brave and face difficulties by looking to the future and doing their best for all those around them.

Now, something they should know is that it is necessary to have their own spaces, moments in which to prioritize to remember that they must attend to their self-esteem, because whoever lives giving everything for others, sometimes, remains empty. We invite you to reflect on it.

Good people wear a second skin that makes them special

People with a noble heart wear a breastplate with which to show the world their integrity, improvement and strength. However, it is nothing more than a protective armor, because within it is a heart that is too sensitive to the pains of the world.

They may think that they are capable of solving everything, of giving the best answer to any problem and that they are that embrace that surrounds every soul in need of support. However, it must be borne in mind that whoever lives only to comfort, ends up collecting too much sadness. Therefore, it may be necessary to consider the following aspects.

Good people are highly sensitive personalities

More than one may wonder who we consider good people. We are all very clear about what is right, we all do the best for each other and we value respect, coexistence and harmony.
So … Who has the merit of considering himself a better person than others?

• In reality, it is just a term to designate those types of personalities that prioritize the needs of others more than their own.
• They perceive in a more intense way the suffering and worries of others. They are more receptive and emotionally more sensitive.

• The fact of showing more closeness to others also causes them to suffer more disappointments from the account. In addition, this type of emotional pain cannot be managed so adequately.
• They don’t recover so quickly emotionally. A bad word, a rudeness, or a selfish act leaves its mark on them and, although they hide it by pretending to be strong, their interior is hurt.

They avoid showing their wounds, talking about their problems or showing themselves vulnerable

This is a very common characteristic of people with a noble heart. That second skin that we talked about at the beginning acts as a kind of covering under which to hide emotional pain.

• Just as there are people who like to show their disappointments or how hurt they are with the world, the noblest personalities avoid it and, even more, they hide it and hide it very well.

• The problem lies in the fact that they accumulate too many disappointments and unmanaged, unaddressed events. All that emotional pain leaves a mark and the burden can become unsustainable.
• Despite this, they will continue to appear normal. In addition, they will continue to say yes even if that day they cannot with their soul, even if they want to find a corner to be alone. However, it is not the most appropriate.

How to manage the emotional pain that we secretly accumulate

Think that every disappointment, every rudeness and betrayal is going to leave a mark inside you. Keep in mind also that whoever gets used to forgiving too much makes others see the right to hurt him.

We must not allow it. Good people do not carry wings, they are not angels destined only to fulfill wishes, to heal loneliness and to alleviate problems. They are made of flesh and blood and also have a more fragile heart than most.

Therefore, it may be necessary for us to implement the following strategies.

Time for you, time for emotional relief

If you are not well, you will not give the best of yourself to those around you. Little by little you can fall into a vicious circle where frustration will end up vetoing your personal growth.

• Give yourself time to take care of yourself and take care of yourself. You have the right to say “NO”, because a timely and sincere ‘no’ teaches others that you also have needs, and that is not why you are a bad person.
• Practice emotional release to channel many of those sensations that have scabbed over you. Cry if you need it, write, walk and talk with other people who can understand and help you.
• You too need the support of others. You are not a superhero: you are a person with a sensitive heart who also craves recognition and affection.

Offer your energies and your emotions to those who truly deserve it

Whether we like it or not, there will come a time when we will have to be selective. There are those who give everything for someone and, in return, only receive scorn and emptiness.

• We must avoid investing time, efforts and emotions in those who harm us, because we can be very damaged.

In short, by thinking about yourself you are not going to be selfish. It is only about maintaining an adequate balance where we all win, where reciprocity and respect allow us to grow with that language that is born from the heart and sincerity.